Cheating. Nobody wants to be cheated. Affairs can destroy not only relationship – they can also destroy whole family and whole life. Lots of betrayed people have mental problems, depression, melancholy, sometimes they can’t trust anyone and in fact they can’t build new relationship and be happy in the future. Why then nowadays cheating is getting more and more popular?
Survey results says that on the question “have u ever been betrayed by someone close to you?” 94% inquired answered “yes”. This result is surprising high, therefore second question what we want to ask is “why”? Why people betraying each other so easily. I suppose that when we would ask cheater if they wanted to hurt partner, they would answer “no”. Complicated? Not really. Cheaters usually don’t thinking about betrayal like about thing which will hurt person close to them. Most of them are behave really selfish. They just thinking about themselves, wants to have everything – loving family, decent wife and … mistress with who they can’t forget about daily problems. It sounds idyllic but it isn’t. Every single mature person should know that love shouldn’t be selfish, relationship is not only pleasure. Relationship means love, respect but also responsibilities, problems and compromise. Some people can’t take that responsibility on themselves and, when problems are coming, they are looking for another person, mistress or lover, to forget about everything and have fun. That kind of people shouldn’t be in relationships. Their immaturity and selfishness could hurt their partner or in the worst case – destroy whole family. Interesting thing is that – most of people who cheating, expect from partner sincerity. They are hypocrites, most of them never forgive betrayal. They are cheating but they don’t want to be cheated. Why? Because every single cheater is a human as well, and like every single human have heart and feelings. That’s sad then they are not thinking how much cheated person suffer from betrayal, and how easy sometimes they hurt person close to them.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19930501-000028.html
I think that the biggest problem with this situation is that people don't know how to forgive and the common lack of empathy. We need to try to understand each other to have healthy relationships :)
ReplyDeleteHMMM forbidden fruit taste better ...maybe.
ReplyDeleteneverless, betrayed ppl r able to forgive but not to forget.
memories resist for the rest of the life.
the question is: to forgive and keep thoughts in mind: will he/she do it again? will I be hurted again? where is he/she atm? again? to keep a relationship and neverending and distrust?